Washington has joined six other states in the recognition of full matrimony between consenting adults of the same gender. This was a controversial act and the source of much discussion, acrimony and fear. Here are some thoughts:

We old guys have seen a number of societal changes in this country. I have seen the wrenching changes during the struggle for civil rights for racial minorities in the 60s and 70s; when people died and lives were damaged. I have seen the women’s lib movement begin the recognition of the value of women. No one has ever chosen to be born female, black or gay, yet we have a fine old tradition of oppression of those whom we could oppress for being “different.” I don’t blame just us blue-eyed types, many other societies have done the same thing.

Many would argue that permitting gays to marry somehow diminishes traditional marriage. My wife and I have agreed that our marriage will not be negatively affected. For those who feel their marriage would be damaged,  you have my sincere sympathy. But I would implore you to avoid taking this problem out on others.

Many would argue that permitting such marriages is against the will of God. For them, I would caution that He does not provide unequivocally clear instructions, and we humans are imperfect interpreters anyway. Many good people became absolutely convinced that God wanted them to disembowel and burn heretics alive; to invade “heathen” nations to slaughter those of differing faiths; and to enslave others considered inferior. I would therefore recommend a skeptical approach to such beliefs. Perhaps these folks can keep their beliefs and take comfort in the fact that God will take care of transgressors in His own way and time. For Christians, a simple rereading of the Sermon on the Mount and the (more succinct) Sermon on the Plain should provide much comfort.

We political conservatives note that there is no provision in the U.S. Constitution requiring us to abridge the rights of gay people. Therefore we must stop doing so. For those who reflexively hate anyone different, I have nothing for you.

This is a small step, but a positive one. I love my country all the more for it.

Howard W. Bledsoe
Coupeville